New Years resolutions have always bothered me. I believe you can set goals and resolutions when ever you want, throughout the year. It shouldn't be limited to the beginning of a new year. You can always start fresh, you can always start over when ever you decide too. It could happen in May, August, November, when ever the urge strikes. I find with with each new season I'm ready to make some changes (usually decluttering and reorganizing life) with each season comes change and I feel it fitting to make changes as well.
Now, lots of people make resolutions for the New Year, which is better than not making any, but so many people have stopped by the end of January. Many people don't continue their resolutions and part of me feels it's because the goals they set are so high they are almost unachievable. I find some people want to start with a bang but fizzle shortly after. I think this is the reason resolutions have always bothered me. I admit, when I was in my youth, I participated in this yearly tradition but I soon realized it didnt fit with my life. I always believe in changing, striving, learning throughout the year. But I also came to realize that the things I was resoluting too, were not really, viable. They required so much effort and energy and I didn't have a timeline, I just set a goal. I realized that setting big goals required more, I felt the resolution should be something small, something that could help all of mankind and yourself.
I didn't set a resolution for this year but we have set small goals. I knew I wanted to set a goal that was fairly achievable. I knew it needed to be a goal that didnt require an extensive amount of energy (I'm already running low with house renos and sewing) I wanted to set a goal that would be small but that would still make a huge impact, for me and others. I thought long and hard about this small goal an decided that this year, not just this year but for the rest of my life, I want to smile more. Simple as that, smile more. It may sound so piddly but it means a lot to me. I have been stuck in my ptsd and anxiety for so long that I have one amazing resting bitch face. But I dont want my daughter to look at me and never see a smile. I dont want to walk around with a frown. I want my body to recognize the smile and start to connect stronger positive emotions to that. I can't choose to feel happy or content but by smiling I am giving my body signals that could provoke such emotions.
Smiles are good, for you and for others and it's something I want to do more of. So this year, the rest of my years I will strive to smile more. I will be aware of the current state of my face and try to force the smile out (unless it's not at an appropriate time of course, there are times when a smile should not be displayed) but that is my "resolution" Smile more, what is yours?