34 years ago a man and women said "I Do" and because of them, one year ago I was able to say "I Do". It has been a year since I walked down the aisle and was given away by my mom and dad to my best friend. I said I Do to the man of my dreams, someone who I can't imagine my life without, who has been my rock these last 18 months, who loves me for me, who is an incredibly amazing dad, a hard-worker, handsome, fun, makes me laugh on days I just want to cry, he is my everything. We picked the 20th in recognition of my parents anniversary. They have such a strong loving marriage and we figured perhaps if we got married on the same day our marriage would bring us that luck as well (though it's more about hard work, tolerance, forgiveness and a lot of love then it is luck)
It has not been a typical first year of marriage, many couples struggle their first year learning about the ups and downs of being married but after all we went through, we were set for anything. Our first year was the hardest year we will ever have to go through, given we don't have another loss or something doesn't happen to one of us but we learned that no matter what life throws our way, we can do it, we can make it through as long as we have each other. Our first year was such a blur, only two weeks before we were married we found out about Jacob and that changed our plans drastically. We didn't plan a honeymoon, we couldn't, I needed to rest as much as I could. We didn't really go anywhere but we were together, everyday until Stephen went back to work in November! I don't see how we managed to stay sane. Being together every single day for just about every hour of the day for 7 months straight.....that's tough but our love got us through. It just proved we were really meant to be because we didn't mind one bit, we loved having that time together.
Our wedding was a day of celebration and we meant for it to be. Yes, only two weeks before we were heartbroken yet again, but this day, this special day was about us and our love and that was to be celebrated. We were also told Jacob may not survive much longer in utero so it was a day to celebrate the fact he was still with us. We had such a lovely day, everything was pushed to the side and didn't matter. All that mattered was our love and it could be felt by everyone. I don't want to toot my own horn but our wedding was awesome. I planned everything myself and we stuck to our budget of about $9000 but people still tell me it was one of the most beautiful, loving weddings they have ever been too (not sure people say that to everyone but I do think they meant it) You could truly feel the love and laughter. It was such a great day to celebrate.
I woke up that morning (no we didn't stay in separate rooms the night before, we love each other too much!) to learn that it was suppose to rain that day (and it did in every other part of London expect the parts we were in, the sun was most certainly shinning that day thanks to our angels) I headed out with my mom and Maid of Honor (Nicole) and Stephen headed over to his brothers to get ready. I think we ate breakfast at some point? We headed out to get out hair done and then on to do makeup and then back home to get ready and have some pictures taken. Stephen was at his brother's getting ready (his brother was his best man, small wedding party but it suited us) and they also had some pictures taken. Once we were all set we headed out to Springbank Gardens to have out pictures taken. We decided to get them done before because I don't like being at weddings and having much time between the ceremony and when we eat and I didn't want to make our guests wait either so we did the pictures before (and as for any curses HA, we've been through Hell already we can handle anything) I can still remember getting out of the car and slowly walking up to see Stephen for the first time, he was turned away from me and I tapped him on his shoulders and he turned around and we both laughed because I actually looked like a girl, makeup and all (I don't normally wear makeup or do my hair all fancy) We spent a few moments together and then started the pictures with family and friends.
We decided to take some pictures in the Bereaved Families Garden as it was such a special place for us. Ty's name wasn't engraved yet but he surely made his presence, while the photographer was off with just Stephen and I, ever so gently a butterfly came floating by and sat on a stone right by us, we knew it was Ty. That was my favourite moment of the day! It was so beautiful. We then headed to the church (only 5 minutes late) for the ceremony and I swore I would not cry...I actually never cried once that day my smile was too big to leave room for tears. My mom and dad walked me down the aisle, we said the traditional vows and sealed the deal.
We took a few more pictures with family that wasn't at the pre-pictures and headed down to eat. I like food so we most certainly were going to eat and soon because I was 20 weeks pregnant and HUNGRY!!!! Our food was AMAZING!!! People said it was some of the best they have ever had. If you need a caterer in London, use Culinary Catering. We had Chicken, Pasta, Prime Rib, 4 different kinds of salads, veggies, potatoes, buns and for dessert (no wedding cake) black forest cake, cheesecake and tiramisu. We ate, drank, then had out first dance. I picked out song, it was by Lady Antebellum called "Can't Take My Eyes Off Of You" (Music video below) and then mingled with all of our guests. We packed up at 11pm (we're party animals eh?) and headed off to spend the night at the Delta (thanks to my parents) and enjoyed our time there. We brought and opened all our gifts at the hotel, walked around a bit then headed to bed.
I know there were so many more details but I don't remember them all so here is the link to the album I created with some of my favoruite pictures: I should mention, the pictures of us with the bears, the bears represented Ty and Jacob, though at the time we thought Jacob was Matea so that's why one bear is wearing a dress lol...poor guy!
Our Wedding Song