It has come to the point in my life where I am done dealing with peoples shit (to put it as nicely as possible) I have surpassed my 15 year old stage and found that sadly, some people continue to live as they were 15 and cause as much drama as a 15 year old. They thrive off causing drama and I'm going to say it's because their own lives are shitty and they are actually jealous of those they try to start drama with.
I was a member of a few online groups for infant loss and even in such a tender group there are still those who insist on being dramatic. I don't do drama, I don't do gossip, I am above that all yet there are still some who insist on doing it and if you are not apart of it you become the one who is attacked or friends of yours become attacked. I recently deleted myself from some groups and had to block and delete some people from my facebook. I told them to stop contacting me that I wasn't going to get caught up in their drama, nor was I going to let them attack my friends so I did the mature thing and just simply block and deleted....but some people just need to cause drama. These said people (mainly one person) decided they were not happy with my decision and those decisions of others to block and delete them so said person decided to start attacking business pages, posting nasty message on walls and sending messages that way (the need to cause drama is what keeps them going I guess) and again, being the mature one, I said please stop contacting me and these other people, we were not going to get involved with any sort of drama, we are mature and above that crap. It hasn't stopped so I decided to contact facebook. I didn't want to have to do any of this which is why I thought blocking and deleting would be the best option but for those who insist on living like a 15 year old, they just don't give up.
I looked all over last night for hours in how to contact facebook, you can't. The issue was, as a business I can only ban people if they are fans but people who are not fans can post and send messages about anything they care to so I can't ban them. I saw this person post a few things on other sites too and wanted to send facebook a message asking them to set it up that a business could block people who were not fans so that this could be dealt with. Did you know you cant contact facebook anymore? Not only that, they say to use the report button for posts and messages so I tried and it said it couldnt do it.....what kind of crap is that? Facebook is seriously messed up! Anyways, I forget how I did it but I finally sent a message and said I would like to be contacted to deal with this in a mature way, all I want to do is know how to ban people from business pages who aren't fans so I and many others who are having the same problem can do so.
I'm still waiting to hear from them. I just have to say if this continues though, the harassment by those who feel it necessary to slander and bash infant loss moms, it will be taken to the authorities. I don't do drama anymore nor do I deal with peoples shit, especially when friends of mine are being attacked. I am sorry their lives suck so much that they have to get into others business and don't understand what leave me alone means. But I have come to the point in life where I just don't deal with shit and will do the mature thing to deal with it, however, if it gets out of hand I will report it. You can't get all over people and bash people left and right and expect to get away with it, sadly said person is mistaken.
Thankfully, I have talked to a few people who have the same problem with said people so I know I am not alone and that none of us will stand for this drama. And to those who read this and are in the baby loss community on facebook, be very careful and weary of who you trust. The majority are great people and it seems the bad ones do it to themselves and out each other and it doesn't take long to know who they are but just be careful. They attack like vicious animals and prey on those who are week and vulnerable from their losses. But don't fear, there is a solid backbone of great women who are trying to avoid any of you from having to deal with these people.
Another reason I have come to this point is poor business services. I am pretty lenient with people and understand things come up (as I know myself from being a business owner) but when I paid for something 3 months ago I expect to have it by now and not knowing what is going on other than me contacting you (if its taking awhile contact your customers, its what I do) is not really flying. There comes a point where after contacting you many many times, with no response sometimes that I will be reporting to paypal that I want my money back. I tried to be nice, gave you a few weeks, months and sent you many messages asking what was going on, but with no response and no product, I do fully expect a refund.
I just don't understand what is wrong with people these days....but there comes a point when everyone has to stand up for themselves and those around them and not let the injustice and unfairness of the world win. So today I stand up for myself and those being attacked, we will not take your shit and be warned, if you don't back off you will have it coming. You do this to yourself. The good ones in the baby loss community will not let you attack the vulnerable and cause more hurt and frustration on top of loosing a child. You may try as much as you would like but I do believe in Karma and Karma can be a bitch so watch out. I will continue to be the mature one as will the other leaders and take care of things the age we are, not 15 year old drama. You may not have grown up but there are many who have and I'm sorry you life sucks so much you insist on making others feel less about themselves, it must be a really shitty life you live. I can only pray that God sends you the reasoning to stop living as a 15 year old and live with a full heart helping everyone instead of trying to hurt the already hurt.
To those in the baby loss community who have been attacked (by the same people or not) I am sorry you have had to deal with that, know that there are great communities out there who do support and not cause drama. Just be careful when you are looking for online support. If you would like to know of the good groups, send me a message and I can guide you that way but please understand, because I am above all the drama, I am not willing to give out names to those who cause problems, I don't really need to, they seem to out themselves soon enough anyways. And as a word of thought perhaps, if you do encounter women in the infant loss community who go around and bash names, say not to trust this person or that or these people are horrible, I would ask you step back for a moment and really think about the situation. Those of us who are supportive and do care and would never lessen your feelings don't go around with that kind of drama, we simply deal with it how we deal with it and keep the names out of the public. We don't stoop to levels that low so I do encourage really thinking about the people who go around and name bash, perhaps they are the people everyone is having problems to begin with and they have so many names to bash because they are the ones causing all the problems. I'd also be leery of those that belong to the Leaders Groups, as most are known for being a page where people go and bash names, really what other purpose or reason would there be for leaders groups? I'm not saying all but most are just groups for page leaders to bash names of members they do not like. With those two pieces of advice I know if you encounter people in the baby loss community who do attack the vulnerable, you will be able to figure it out quite quickly.
P.S. I forgot to mention...I survived my hubby being away! It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be...just praying for his safe arrival home now.