Through some suspicion, comments and research I realized the blog yesterday that I posted about is fake. (You can read about it here: http://warriorelihoax.wordpress.com/2012/06/21/other-side-of-the-rainbow-is-a-hoax-too/) It is made up and that person needs some SERIOUS mental health, I know too well there are people out there who make up baby loss stories, as sick as that may sound, I mean it really is. However, I just wanted to clarify that some of the reasons people say it is fake really do happen to those whose stories are true. For those who disbelieve because tragedy of such a harsh nature happening twice seems unimaginable, it does happen, I am living proof that it happens. If it makes you uncomfortable to hear about such tragedy, how the hell do you think we feel everyday having to live it? The fact is there are hundreds and thousands of women who loose more than one child (3rd world countries ring a bell) who have to go through all of this twice and some go through it three, four or even five times (like the one plot where the boys are buried, 5 kids) it does happen and if you choose to say people are making things up because moms don't loose more than one baby, your reality is severely altered. It happens on a daily basis. For those who don't believe because dates don't match up, hell if you asked me dates in regards to either of the boys pregnancies I'd be at a loss, I don't remember but that does not mean I made up my story simply because I confuse dates, that is not a valid argument.
I will say though, if it was truly a real story then it would have made local news and there would be clips and news articles on it as well as pictures.....but she had yet to post, it doesn't really matter, I unfortunately live the life of being a two time baby loss mama. I actually have handed over both my babies to the funeral home, I have stood and watched as my husband lowered our children into the ground, I know that tragedy can strike twice. Don't be so quick to judge a grieving mother because her dates don't add up or because she posts on the day her child died, for some writing is a form of getting out their grief and though there are those who make up, in their very sick minds, tragedies such as child loss, not everyone who has a story has a false one. I guess you need to be leery of who you believe, I would say pictures are a good indication of a true story but even then, some people steal pictures off the internet. Yes there are sick people out there like that but not everyone is, some of us are really going through these tragedies. It goes to show how sick some people are and that there are people out there like that, claiming to have baby loss when they really don't BUT remember, there are those of us who do truly in fact go through these tragedies more than once.
It's like when I read one of my other blogs, I won't mention the name, but I really think there is something serious going on that needs to be addressed, however, it is just a blog, I don't know the full stories, just like no one reading this blog knows my full story, I do try to share as much as I can in hopes that those walking my shows can find some comfort and know this blog is 100% real, I have pictures, videos, birth certificates, death certificates, hand and foot prints and hair clippings, I don't make anything up, I wish it was as simple as that but the truth is, I live this life, that of a twice grieved mother.
All I can say is, there are people out there who can relate even to a fake story, there are women who relate to doing everything over again and even though it was a hoax, many women who commented shared her pain, women who really did have actually losses. And for those who were saying it was a hoax for the above reasons, know that us with real stories still have the same problems.